Dating - What are your non-negotiables?

"You teach people how to treat you." 
Dr. Phil

Recently my 23-year old sister and I were having conversations about dating.  I could hardly believe as she described some of her dating experiences with young men out there.  I was so disappointed and frustrated not only with the men but with the women who expect so little of men in their lives.  

I asked my sister if she had a list of "the non-negotiables" - the things she is not willing to compromise in a dating relationship.  I created such a list when I was dating, it went like this:

1.) Must be a Christian, and have a genuine love relationship with God. 
2.) A commitment to sexual abstinence before marriage.  This weeded out a lot of men.  I was thankful to see them go. (If he can't control himself before marriage, chances are he won't be able to afterwards).
3.) Someone who had character and depth.  I wanted to date a man, not a boy.  Someone who was fully responsible - having a college education or solid career (demonstrations of hard work and discipline).  
4.) Integrity - Someone who was honest in all things.  In order to have a real relationship, you have to have honesty.  Lying was a deal breaker.
5.) Attraction - I needed to at least think the guy was cute and have the desire to kiss him.  I didn't have to have sparks and fireworks, but at least be attracted to him.  

Now, here is a video from dating guru Matthew Hussey on what it means to be a person of "high value" vs "low value".  All the single ladies, listen up...

I love listening to Matthew Hussey's dating advice.  I almost always agree with the man.  
Whatever you do, don't settle for less than God's best for you.  Always ask if this is truly God's best.

Happy Dating!